……..and I loved it both times. I also cried at the sheer beauty (pun not intended) of feelings it evoked in me, regarding the characters and the story. This is not a review, only my response to a number of reviews about the film and its flaws.
The most common theme in all of the reviews I’ve read is how it’s Belle who bends and changes first, that it’s her responsibility to change the man, rather than the man doing it of his own volition.
I heartily disagree with that assessment.
I’m not excusing the Beast’s behavior (he’s a jerk and needs to learn about boundaries), but it’s his poor behavior that’s the catalyst. It’s the reason Belle flees the castle in the first place – he’s rude, he’s being an asshole and he scares her over something that she does not realize has significant importance, not just to the Beast, but to his servants, as well. 
After scaring her out of his castle, the Beast realizes his error and almost becomes paralyzed with despair. He knows he blew it, he knows he’s probably ruined the only hope to undo the curse that he and the castle are under and he wallows. In many ways, his behavior is of someone who has given up all hope, who does not even dare to acknowledge that there is hope.
I understand that feeling. I’ve been in that black pit of despair. I did not treat my nearest and dearest well during that time. Would anyone?
But what does the Beast do then?
For reasons never explained in the animated film or (presumably) the Broadway production or even in the 2017 version, the Beast goes after Belle.
What would be the point? If he’s such a misogynistic, self-centered asshole, why would he do that? Was he obligated to go after her? No, he was not. Was he obligated to save her life? No. The Beast CHOSE to go after Belle (to apologize, presumably, but, as observed earlier, it’s not made clear), and he ends up SAVING her life. Was he obligated to that, too? No, he was not. He chose to do it because it was the right thing to do.
The Beast changed first.
It was his selfless act of saving her from the wolves that allows her to change her mind.
And yet, no one sees that. No one sees that he recognized his error (self-awareness) and went after her, to apologize (again, there’s no reason stated for why he went after her) and ends up risking his life for her.
All they see is that she changes her mind about him.
Belle didn’t reassess her opinion of the Beast out of nowhere. There was a motivating factor.
He saved her life, at great risk to himself, of his own free will.
She could have let him die and you see her move to leave him again, while he’s wounded and too weak to follow. But she doesn’t – she recognized that he saved her life. He chose to bend first, not Belle.
My argument here is that it was not Belle who initiated the change in their dynamic first. She didn’t in the animated version nor in this version (and not in the Broadway production, either, I’m assuming). I’ve read many reviews of this movie, and no one, NO ONE, remembers that Beast risked his life to save Belle BEFORE Belle decides to reassess her opinion of Beast.
Nothing happens in a vacuum.
Belle bends, but the Beast did it first.
 As for his relationship with the servants and why they couldn’t help Beast change his abusive and rude behavior? Their relationship dynamics are in an already established hierarchy (master and servants). As anyone in a family knows, effecting change in someone’s behavior is difficult enough as it is. To effect it in someone you know is even more so. Sometimes, it takes a stranger, someone from outside, to hold a mirror up to you before you can see it.